My name is Emily, and I went from having no intimacy in my marriage and thinking, my husband isn’t attracted to me, to having a newfound confidence in myself and a restored spark in the bedroom.
After getting so much help from all of the blog posts here, I figured it was time to share my story.
My husband, Raul, and I were married for 4 years before we had our first child. That’s when we lost the intimacy in our marriage, and where I completely lost my self-esteem.
Let me start by saying that my husband is an amazing man. He’s a caring husband and father, and would do ANYTHING to make his family happy.
With that said, there was a dramatic change in our relationship after our son was born. I expected a lack of intimacy at first. It’s hard to get turned on when your newborn keeps you up all hours of the night.
But as our son started to get older, the lack intimacy remained. I began to think that I was the problem. I never lost weight following my pregnancy, and as time passed I just put on more. I began to think: my husband isn’t attracted to me sexually. That’s why we aren’t intimate anymore.
What was worse, I really wanted another child. And… well… that wasn’t going to happen without that spark.
I Waited & Waited… But Still No Intimacy in Marriage
Months passed. Years passed. And I just kept waiting every night for my husband to make a move. I wanted him to come on to me. I wanted to feel attractive again.
Slowly we started to fight. I would take out my frustrations on him, and he didn’t know why.
Things were getting bad fast. Bless his heart, he never returned the anger.
Finally, after years of frustration, I decided to seek help. I asked my friends about their marriages… maybe I wasn’t the only one with this problem. Well, that just made me feel worse to hear about their active sex lives.
One of my friends recommended I look online—that she had heard about an online alternative to marriage counseling on the radio. I checked out this site, and signed up for the online program, called Marriage Fitness.
I knew my husband would be happy to make our marriage happier, so I told him all about the program when he came home from work.
When I told my husband about the way I was feeling and that I had signed up for an online alternative to marriage counseling he was speechless. He actually cried a little bit (and he’s one of those tough guys!)
He told me he had NO IDEA. That he had been frustrated by our lack of sex life as well. He thought that I wasn’t attracted to him anymore. We were both feeling the same way, and silly us, we both ignored the problem.
He also said that we clearly need the help, since we let this problem linger for years without communicating our real feeling to each other. So we decided to give it a go, and I’m so happy we did!
And to think I thought my husband isn’t attracted to me for all these years!
We Thought We Had Great Communication in Marriage.
Before we started the online counseling alternative program we both thought that we were excellent communicators.
Boy, were we wrong!
In the three months we’ve been participating in the program we’ve not only restored our sex life, we’ve taken control of our finances, and started to plan for a second child!
The program helped us open up the floodgates to communication. All our goals, thoughts, and worries are now out on the table. We’re taking action! We talk everyday! It’s the best thing we’ve ever done for our marriage.
Marriage Fitness Can Work for You Too!
If you need help opening up in your marriage, I can’t recommend trying out what we did enough!
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But this is just the start. Once we learned these seven secrets we were hooked. We knew that our marriage could just keep getting better and better with more work, and so far it has!
Raul and I know Mort’s program can help you too!
I was very reluctant to do the program, but I told my wife Michelle I would do it, essentially as a last ditch effort. It turned out to be one of the major things that helped save our marriage.