Has your marriage ever felt strained because your husband works too much?
My name is Cecilia and my husband, Mike, and I have been trying to fix this problem for the past couple years. Our marriage was approaching a breaking point, until we recently found a solution that’s helping us become stronger than ever.
If you’d like to hear how we were able to overcome our problems, then keep reading! Our solution may surprise you.
It’s true—when I married Mike he was already a workaholic. It was part of what attracted me to him. His dedication to his career as a lawyer meant that at a moment’s notice he would have to drop what he was doing and devote himself entirely to new developments in whatever case he was working on.
I loved his drive.
But when we got married and moved to a new town where I didn’t know anyone and was far away from my friends and family, I started to get lonely.
He would leave for work first thing in the morning and wouldn’t get home until after it was dark. Sometimes he wouldn’t even get home until 10 or 11 PM if he was working on an important case.
I started to get lonely… and with each passing day it got worse. I began to think, he works all the time.
I Tried to Understand
I tried really, really hard to understand that Mike’s job required a lot from him. That without his career we wouldn’t be able to live as comfortably and afford the luxuries we’ve grown accustomed to.
But after the first year of being lonely in marriage, I began to think that Mike was choosing his job over me—his own wife. That my husband works too much. This hurt, and it began to lead to fighting and bickering.
After arguing almost daily for an entire year, and after my loneliness began to segue into depression, I decided to look for a solution. I couldn’t go on married like this—just sitting around all day waiting for my husband to come home.
If Mike didn’t have time for me, I knew he wouldn’t have time to see a marriage counselor. It just wasn’t possible.
So I began reading self-help marriage books and participating in online forums with wives who faced similar problems. “My husband works too much” was a more common problem than I thought. One day a friend I met on an online forum recommended I check out MarriageMax.com.
I wish I found this site years ago! Its an alternative to marriage counseling put the power in our hands to fix our marriage with innovative communication exercises aimed at discovering real solutions.
And because it was online, my husband and I could find the time to do it on our own schedule!
After only 3 sessions, we started to learn a lot about each other. Mike revealed how he grew up poor, and was terrified of slipping back into poverty. It was part of the reason he worked so hard.
He learned how lonely I really was. That I was becoming depressed.
But the online counseling program encouraged us to do more than just talk about feelings. It inspired action from both my husband and me!
Sure, my husband still works A LOT, but I’d no longer say that he works too much. And I’m certainly no longer lonely, or jealous of the time he spends at work.
What changed? Everything. I understand him better. He understands me better. And most of all we learned how to schedule time for just the two of us and stick to the schedule no matter what! And we have the online alternative to marriage counseling to thank for that idea.
If you ever find yourself facing similar problems in your marriage, I highly recommend you do exactly what we did. Fill out the form below, and Mort will begin sending free marriage tips directly to your inbox.
We unsuccessfully went to marriage counseling. I wanted to make things work but didn’t know where to turn. I found Mort’s program on the internet. I liked the alternative approach to counseling. Overall it has been a steady improvement.