I have noticed that my husband’s friends are a bad influence on him which has negatively impacted our marriage. My name is Mary and I am sharing my marital story as a guest blogger for Marriage Fitness. Although I wanted to be an easy going wife, I did not think I would be able to handle the situation that I was in any longer. My husband spent a lot of time with this group of friends and I was constantly worrying that he would do something to ruin our marriage or get himself into trouble with the law. I couldn’t tell my husband to stop spending time with his friends and I didn’t think I had any other options.
Thankfully, only a few of my husband’s friends are a bad influence on him. My husband has more than one group of friends however; he usually chooses to spend time with the group that I do not agree with. In lieu of not sounding like I was controlling my husband, I have tried to encourage outings with my husband’s good friends, but he always seemed to go back to the other group. My husband’s group of friends is always smoking, drinking, cursing and talking about crude subjects. When my husband is around these friends, he will act in the same manner to fit in and when he is with other people he is always refined and polite. Yet, recently this has not been the case.
My husband has been desensitized to the behavior of his friends. He is now accustomed to this inappropriate way of acting. Because of this, we began to fight a lot; mainly about the fact that my husband’s friends are a bad influence. We have also been arguing about small irrelevant matters which was not a common occurrence before my husband began spending a lot of time with his friends. Because of our arguing, our marriage has been spiraling downward and we no longer respected each other in the proper way. It feels like anytime my husband is annoyed he will run to his friends. I knew this was not the best way to handle my situation. Instead of correcting this issue, I was pushing my husband to be around the friends I didn’t like.
I knew that there had to be another option, yet I didn’t have any idea where to look for a solution to my problem. I knew that I didn’t want to control who my husband is friends with and at the same time, our marriage was the most important part of our life. We needed to find a happy medium. Marriage Fitness Boot Camp gave us the medium we needed. After completing the entire program, we were able to approach our issues in the best way possible. Our unimportant arguments over minor maters were no longer present. It feels as if we are back at square one with a new beginning.
My husband left me because he was "drowning." My therapist was leading me to divorce. I listened to Mort's program. With the grace of God it worked!