I have always wondered is marriage counseling worth it, will it erase our issues, and will it makes us love each other again? My name is Karen, a guest blogger for Marriage Fitness and I will tell you how I found the answers to my questions. Growing up, I was a product of divorced parents. As a child, I saw my parents fighting often and inevitably they separated. Both my parents were opposed to marriage counseling as they believed they no longer loved each other. They never tried to work on their relationship which only left our entire family feeling broken. What my parents did not realize is there is always hope.
I was recently having a difficult time in my own marriage without noticing. My husband and I had been fighting about everything. We were so frustrated with each other that it was so difficult to have a normal conversation. We could not be in agreement even over the small things. Thankfully we did not have any predominant problems in our marriage but we still had many lurking issues. Because there were no large problems, I never considered seeking help from a counselor. That is until my seven year old daughter asked me us if were getting divorced. I was shocked. I hadn’t noticed that I was putting my children through the same nightmare I had encountered as a kid. The guilt was eating me alive. I was now convinced that we needed help, but my husband asking “is marriage counseling worth it” made me so angry.
I would do anything it took to make my family happy and I hoped my husband would too. I never wanted to make my children feel broken the way I had so many years ago. And I refused to be the same example to my children as my parents had been to my siblings and me. So I set my mind to seek help and never fight with my husband again. We started traditional marriage counseling that week. We were very respectful to each other and didn’t fight in front of the children. Yet, it now felt like we were acting. After months of consistent therapy, our problems went right back to the way it started. This was not the life I wanted to live or give my children. There had to be another way to save my marriage.
I found the answer to all of my above questions: is marriage counseling worth it, will it erase our issues, and will it makes us love each other again? The answer to all of my husband’s and my questions is YES! My husband and I completed the Marriage Fitness Boot Camp together after much persuasion on my part. We have put aside all of our problems and we have fallen in love again. If you are looking for answers I really recommend this program. Mort Fertel’s marriage boot camp program works wonders.
My husband left me because he was "drowning." My therapist was leading me to divorce. I listened to Mort's program. With the grace of God it worked!