Hi, my name is Marie. For a while, my husband and I have had many struggles in our marriage. One issue that kept coming up is that my husband and I can’t agree on anything. I finally got sick of the fighting and decided that we should seek help before our marriage ends up in a divorce. Not knowing where or who to go to, I decided to look online for help. There, I came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. I would like to share with you about what lead us to seek the help for our marriage.
For the past few years my husband and I have not been able to agree on anything. Whether it is regarding our children’s education or something as simple as what would be for dinner, we end up fighting about it. The problem is that when we fight, it is screaming back and forth and our words are not clearly heard. For most of the time during our arguments, one of us ends up leaving the house to cool off.
Nothing that I do is ever good enough for my husband. Instead of getting compliments on how I look, or what I cooked, I can always count on my husband for a negative comment or questioning why I did something. Most of the comments made by my husband are regarding me wasting money or me not thinking something through.
I grew up in a strict home, and went to a strict school. My childhood memories are mostly negative memories. I probably remember every time I was praised throughout my childhood, and I can honestly tell you that the list of praises were very short. There is no way that I could continue on in a marriage that resembled my childhood.
After trying to explain to my husband what I was feeling, and what was bothering me and getting nothing in return, I decided that maybe it was best to seek professional advice before walking away from my marriage and tearing our family apart. I begged my husband to participate in counseling with me, and after much hesitation my husband finally agreed that counseling was the only thing that could possibly fix our marriage and work on our insecurities and lack of communication.
Since the idea of counseling was very new to the both of us, we decided to start the search for advice by looking into counseling available online. From that search, we were able to come across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program. Through this program, not only were we able to work on our marriage and communication skills, we were able to do all of this all from the comfort of our own home. I am lucky to say that both my husband and I took the advice that we have received seriously and are now able to communicate in a healthier way. Instead of feeling that my husband and I can’t agree on anything, we learned to talk about our feelings which, really seems to be working. I am looking forward to a more positive future with my husband using all of the tools that we obtained.
We were on the verge of divorce. He moved out and filed. I was lost. I purchased the Lone Ranger because he was done. Within weeks he went from ignoring everything I said to spending time together. We reconciled. He moved home.