My name is Rebecca and sometimes I get the feeling that my husband doesn’t like me.
Like most other marriages, my marriage to Matthew started off great, but it seems like things have quickly been going downhill for the last few years.
A lot of things happened in that time and our marriage started to crumble. I felt lost. And I felt like my whole world was slipping away.
If you’re in a similar situation and you don’t know where to turn, please keep reading to learn about what I did. Hopefully my story will help put you on the right path.
When we got married, Matthew and I struggled as a lot of young couples do. Between him working and my school and part time job, it seems like we hardly saw each other.
Yet we somehow managed to make things work.
As time passed, our lives stabilized. We both had jobs and, as we moved up and earned more money, life got a little easier for us.
We were committed to making the marriage work and the birth of our daughter, Stephanie, only seemed to strengthen the bond.
It was about the time Stephanie turned 3 that things began to shift and I noticed a change in Matthew.
I became pregnant again, and I think the fact that baby number two wasn’t planned might have been what started all of this.
Having one child was a challenge, but becoming pregnant with a second when the first wasn’t even in school yet proved to be much tougher than I think either of us expected.
The added expense meant that Matt was regularly putting in overtime at work. I left my job to take care of the kids since daycare was so expensive, and watching two children who need constant supervision is enough to drain anyone. Matthew would come home from a hard day of work and would often be too tired to help me.
It was then that I started to realize that my husband doesn’t like me.
Little issues like that would build over time. The stress would be so much that Matthew would stay late and have beers with his coworkers. Our sex life was becoming nonexistent. Small disagreements would escalate into full arguments. I would feel like my husband doesn’t appreciate me… every second of everyday.
Matt’s stormed off in the middle of an argument more than once, leaving me in tears and coming back to a tense silence that would last for days at a time.
When I tried to raise the issue, he would brush me off. It was almost like my husband didn’t love me.
It got to a point where I was questioning the strength of our marriage. Matt’s spirit seemed to have all but left him, and I felt like I was spinning my wheels trying to keep it all together.
What was I supposed to do to keep us from separating?
The fact that my husband didn’t like me anymore led me to believe that our marriage would inevitably end in a divorce unless I actively did something to fix it.
I searched everywhere and felt like nothing would help until I came across Mort Fertel’s program which taught me the importance of communication in marriage and how it could help mend my relationship with Matt.
I knew that, in order for us to get past what we felt was troubling our marriage we had to open up to each other and actually talk. The program was very helpful in getting us to share our feelings, expectations, and worries about our marriage.
We used to do this when we were first married, but it seems like things got so far off course that we somehow lost that. Thankfully this program put us back on track.
It was a shame that it took me realizing that my husband doesn’t like me to get to this point, but I’m glad I was able to find a solution that would get us on the right track again.
If you’ve experienced marital problems similar to mine, I encourage you to fill out the form below for information that could help you. You can save your marriage if you act as soon as possible.
A little over a year ago I thought my marriage was over. She was moving out. Thank you Mort for giving me the tools that I needed to save my marriage. One year later and we are happier than ever and back together.