My husband tells his family everything which often makes big problems in our marriage. My name is Karen and I am a guest blogger for Marriage Fitness. My husband and I have been married for eight years and my husband’s family has never been very fond of our relationship. Being that my husband tells his family everything, it only causes more issues in our marriage. When my in laws hear every detail about our marriage, they often give unsolicited advice which creates major animosity between my husband and me. This has been an ongoing issue which is only getting worse with time.
From the smallest story to the biggest fight, I felt that my husband tells his family everything. Even if I asked my husband to keep something confidential, he would end up telling someone in his family. My husband is really close with his family, so I feel that it is unfair to ask him to hold anything back from them. However, at the same time I felt that it was important that we have a personal and private relationship that is not shared with his whole family. I was stuck in a bind and did not know where I could turn to. Instead, I decided it would be best not to mention my feelings as not to cause more strife. It was clear that our marriage was not going to have any secrets.
When my husband informed my in laws of our information, it was frustrating but I understood it. However, when he started to mention my personal information, I felt that he had crossed the line. I knew that this would be an issue before my husband and I had gotten married, but I did not know to what extent. I tried to be easy going on this issue for way too long. I didn’t think I could take it any longer. I confronted my husband about my feelings. Yet, he was not on my side and thought I was being controlling by asking him to keep some things private from his family. He also thought that it had to do with the history of my relationship with his family. I thought my request was reasonable but I didn’t want to insult him so I didn’t mention it again.
Because I was always concerned of my husband repeating everything to his family, I began keeping things from him. We used to have such great communication skills so this only led to distance in our marriage. In hopes of bettering my marriage and correcting this issue, I contacted Marriage Fitness. The boot camp program not only allowed my husband and I to correct our issues, it taught us how to be truly happy again. It feels amazing to be able to share everything with my husband again without being afraid that it will be repeated. We truly appreciate everything Marriage Fitness has done for our marriage.
I was very reluctant to do the program, but I told my wife Michelle I would do it, essentially as a last ditch effort. It turned out to be one of the major things that helped save our marriage.