My wife is talking about divorce which is a completely foreign concept to me. My name is Eric and I would like to share the story of my marriage with you as a guest blogger for Marriage Fitness. The idea of divorce is so far off in my family that it came as a total shock to me when my wife mentioned separating. I come from a tight nit family where my parents, grandparents and aunts and uncles are all still married. In my family, divorce was looked at like you were running away from your problems instead of correcting any underlying issues. Needless to say, I was in total disagreement with my wife when she suggested that we get a divorce.
I was so happy with our marriage and my wife seemed content. So, when my wife mentioned getting divorced, I was in a state of shock. To me, it seemed like it came out of nowhere. I didn’t understand why my wife is talking about divorce. Why would she want to separate from me or break up our gorgeous family? She told me the reason was because she wasn’t happy and because there was no exhilaration. This didn’t seem like a plausible reason though. I tried to argue my opinion on multiple occasions, but my wife did not want to take my opinion into consideration. My wife thought she was compromising by saying that she would agree to a short separation. However, I knew that this would only cause more hurt and refused to approve of her choice.
For days on end, I argued and begged my wife not to leave. I told her that I would do anything to turn our marriage into what she wanted. Yet, my convincing did not work and my wife moved to her parents’ house. It broke my heart to see my children hurt this way. Being without my wife by my side each day was extremely tough. Although, I was not going to let this set back get in the way of winning my wife back. Even though my wife is talking about divorce, I am willing to do anything in my power to save my marriage. And I understood that she is not satisfied in our marriage, and I wanted nothing more than for my wife to be happy in our marriage.
Thankfully, my wife did not have her mind set on divorce. She did however make up her mind that she wanted time to think our marriage through. I wanted to do give her space but did not know if that was the correct way to go about our situation. And I feared that if she had time, she might decide to divorce me. It was clear that in order to make it right, I would need assistance. I am so happy to say that I got the guidance I needed to win my wife back by joining Marriage Fitness Boot Camp.
I was desperate cried and begged. I found Marriage fitness. After 9 months of saying get out she said "how do we heal?" It's been 4 months since our reconciliation and we feel a sense of optimism.