The hardest part of my marriage is that my wife tells her mother everything. This may seem like a small issue to some, but it has put a heavy damper on our marriage. Hello, my name is Carl and I am a guest blogger for Marriage Fitness’ website. My story can show you how to turn your marriage around completely. I would like to start by sharing the dynamics of our marriage. My wife and I have been happily married for twelve years now. Aside from the usual ups and downs in a marriage, we generally have an amazing relationship. Our communication is open and honest and we rarely fight. Yet, recently our entire relationship has taken a turn for the worse.
I love that my wife is extremely close with her mother and I share a similar bond. Except, my wife tells her mother everything and I do not. When my wife asked if her mother can move into our home, I couldn’t say no. I will not put any blame, however since my mother in law moved into our home, I feel that I cannot have a normal relationship with my wife. It is now shared my mother in law as well. It started out slowly when I told my wife, in confidentiality, about an embarrassing issue I was having at work. The next day my mother in law mentioned this issue in passing which completely threw me off. I quickly confronted my wife and explained that we needed to keep our personal life private and she agreed with me.
Only things kept getting worse and worse. Everything was out in the open in front of my mother in law. I was uncomfortable to say things to my own wife in fear of her repeating it to her mother. I knew that my wife tells her mother everything so I began keeping things from my wife. Our relationship went from honest and open to closed and hostile very fast. Although I tried to be understanding, our relationship was deteriorating in front of my eyes. We began fighting about the smallest things. What hurt me the most was when I realized that we never laugh together anymore. This is when I realized that we could not continue like this for another day.
My wife agreed that our relationship was crumbling and we needed help. I contacted Mort Fertel from Marriage Fitness and my wife and I began his Tele Boot Camp immediately that day. I didn’t want to wait another second to get my happy and loving marriage back. Throughout the boot camp, my wife and I learned to how to approach our specific issues. It showed us how to strengthen our bond despite our problems. Marriage Fitness also allowed us to focus on our intimate relationship with each other. We are now back to our healthy and happy marriage only now our bond is stronger.
I am not sure I could have done it without you. I would have given up and believed that because he was with someone else we were done. Thank you. We are forever indebted.