I had gotten myself into a horrible situation and did not know what to do; should I tell my husband that I cheated or not? My name is Lena and I was invited to share my story as a guest blogger for the Marriage Fitness website. I will tell you how I found the best way to overcome the obstacle I was facing in my marriage. I have always loved my husband and I made the worst mistake that I could ever dream of. I knew I had to clean up my mess but wasn’t sure if telling him was the best approach. I was now on the pursuit to find out the right way to correct my harmful actions.
I have always prided myself on being an honest woman. However, the thought of confessing my affair to my husband made me sick to my stomach. I wanted to own up to my actions and apologize but I didn’t know if telling him was the best way to go. If I kept my affair a secret, would I be considered a liar or a bad person? Would I be able to live with this my affair as a secret? On the other hand, if I told my husband, I was putting too many things at stake. How would he react? Would it end our marriage? Both of my options seemed like the wrong way. So my question remained unanswered; should I tell my husband that I cheated or not?
I felt like a bad person if I were to tell my husband about my affair or if I kept it a secret. I did not want to be in this position but most of all I felt terrible for putting my husband in the middle of my mistake. Every morning I would wake up deciding today I am going to do the right thing and tell my husband. But then each day would pass and I still hadn’t confessed. I was holding back, because I was never certain if it was the right thing to do. I couldn’t bear thinking of the hurt he would endure if I confessed. What if he no longer wanted to stay married? Should I tell my husband that I cheated and take the chance of divorce? At this point I knew I needed to make a decision.
I read many blogs and searched the internet for answers or advice. I was only left with conflicting messages that left me even more confused. Now there was only one option left, and that was to seek professional assistance. I sought out advice from the amazing Mort Fertel and joined his Marriage Fitness Boot Camp. He not only answered my question, but Mort gave me the insight I needed to correct my mistake. I am so thankful that I was able to overcome the challenge I had encountered in my marriage.
I was very reluctant to do the program, but I told my wife Michelle I would do it, essentially as a last ditch effort. It turned out to be one of the major things that helped save our marriage.
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