Hi, I’m Leanne – let me tell you that sleeping in separate rooms doesn’t have to end in divorce!
Two years ago, my husband and I were sleeping in separate rooms on opposite sides of the house.
I was sure that there was no way we could keep our marriage together, and I didn’t even think that I wanted to save my marriage. We were in a serious marital crisis.
Now, I’m so grateful that my husband pushed me to fight for our marriage. I think we’re happier than we’ve been since the first few years we were married.
I didn’t just decide to move into the guest room one day. We had been having some problems for a few years, problems that made me less interested in having sex with my husband.
I started sleeping in the guest room occasionally, giving the excuse that my back was bothering me (I have an old accident injury) and that the small twin bed in the guest room was more comfortable.
In truth, I just wanted to avoid turning my husband down.
Gradually, We Were Sleeping in Separate Rooms Permanently
Over the course of about a year, my husband asked about it less and less and I slept in the guest room more frequently. Eventually, I slept there every night.
We did have a couple of arguments about it early on, but then we stopped talking about sleeping in separate rooms and my husband seemed to accept it. I thought for sure that we wouldn’t be able to keep our marriage together very long.
But one day my husband suggested that we try online marriage counseling in an effort to save our marriage. I didn’t have much hope for it, but I agreed.
As we started doing the online marriage counseling sessions together, I began to have hope. We were talking more and we were talking about important things, including the brief infidelity (by my husband) that had made me lose interest in sex.
I distinctly remember the day I said to myself, “You’re starting to act like you want to save your marriage.” That was when I knew that even though we had some common divorce issues, I wanted to keep our marriage together.
Through the online marriage advice we got, we started working through our problems together. Not just the immediate problems, but the ones that were at the root of my husband’s infidelity, too.
We gradually rekindled the friendship that had brought us together and then the romance and sexual intimacy, too.
If You’re Sleeping in Separate Rooms, Don’t Lose Hope
My marriage is still far from perfect, but we’re stronger, happier and very hopeful about our future.
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You can save your marriage if you’re willing to get sound advice, find some good counseling and fight for what you have built. We did it, and you can do it, too.
We were on the verge of divorce. He moved out and filed. I was lost. I purchased the Lone Ranger because he was done. Within weeks he went from ignoring everything I said to spending time together. We reconciled. He moved home.