Hello, my name is Lance. My wife Marla and I have been married for the past fourteen years. In my opinion, our marriage was a healthy and successful marriage up until the past year. Now, I need to learn how to stop my wife’s emotional affair with her colleague.
For the past year, I noticed a difference in how my wife is towards me. I used to be the person that she would go to about her day or for any advice. Lately, I not only don’t know how her day ever goes, but every time I ask her, she gives me a vague answer. Later on in the day, I hear her on the phone chatting with her colleague about everything and anything under the sun.
I understand that my wife works closely with her colleague, and I am okay with that. What I am not okay with is that her colleague has now taken the place of me. Marla spends quite a lot of time either talking or spending time with her colleague. Even though she won’t admit it, she thinks about him often.
The time that I do get with my wife, she is always checking her phone or texting with her colleague. Even after I ask her to focus on us, and our marriage, she laughs it off and runs back to him. Conversations between the two of them rarely consist of work, and recently I have been noticing a lot of flirting going on between the two of them.
The flirting has gotten worse as the time goes by, in fact at social functions where her colleague used to not be invited to, he is now the first person on the list. My wife would always get defensive when I would ask why she needs to invite him to our parties. I love my wife dearly, so I of course would end up letting this man come to my house.
At each function, my wife always goes in a corner with her “colleague” and anytime I would walk over, she would quickly speak about work. I might be paranoid, but I’m pretty sure that touching each other and being in deep conversation does not come with the work description.
As time went by, the flirting got worse. Not only did I realize it, but my wife’s friends approached me about it. Once people started speaking about this relationship, I knew that it was more obvious than I had once thought. Something needed to change and there is no way I am losing my wife.
I finally built up the courage to confront my wife about this relationship, and this time I had facts to prove that this was an inappropriate relationship. I knew my wife would not be able to get defensive and she would either be willing to get help in our marriage, or enter a dark place in our marriage where I would definitely not want to be.
To my surprise, my wife was receptive to what I had to say and to my feelings. I needed to learn how to stop my wife’s emotional affair, and she agreed with that. Together, we agreed on getting help in our marriage. Lucky for us, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness Program. Through this program, we were able to rekindle the marriage that we once had, and we learned about healthy relationships and inappropriate ones.
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We unsuccessfully went to marriage counseling. I wanted to make things work but didn’t know where to turn. I found Mort’s program on the internet. I liked the alternative approach to counseling. Overall it has been a steady improvement.