4 Things to Do If There Is Infidelity in Your Marriage

For many, the response to infidelity is a no-brainer—kick ‘em to the curb. But if want to reconcile despite being betrayed, read on, because infidelity can be overcome.

Some people just can’t accept the idea of forgiving a cheating spouse, but you never know how you’ll react to that situation until it happens to you. Most people say that infidelity means “game over,” but once it happens many people change their mind and become willing to forgive.

4 Things to Do If There Is Infidelity in Your Marriage

It’s easy to say that cheating is unacceptable.

And of course, it is. But when you’re faced with the consequences of ending a marriage—like weekends without the kids, less money, a smaller house, a lower standard of living, the prospect of dating again, and tearing up years of photos—many people can’t go there. As unacceptable as infidelity is, for many people it’s worth it to try to reconcile rather than divorce and face that nightmare too. In other words, just because you want to stick with a cheating partner does not mean you’re a mentally deranged masochist.

If you’re fed up, lawyer up—but if you want to save your marriage and reconcile your relationship despite infidelity, here’s some advice:
  1. Don’t spy. If your spouse is having an affair, then your marriage needs a leader, not a follower. Spying is another form of betrayal; it’s a violation of trust. Don’t go there. You’ll just add to the distrust in the marriage and make matters worse. Instead, take the high road. Maintain your decency and integrity. Be a leader, not a follower.
  2. Hang in there. The vast majority of affairs end within a year. Your spouse may think that he or she will be the exception, but affairs are relationships built on deceit and immorality, and things planted in polluted soil don’t grow well. The affair will die. Don’t make an impulsive decision. Hang in there until the affair runs its natural course. At that you and your spouse might see your marriage and your future differently.
  3. Kill ‘em with kindness. He doesn’t deserve it? No kidding! But if you want to spoil his (or her) affair and turn your marriage around, don’t treat your spouse the way he treats you; treat your spouse the way you want him to treat you. Adulterers wants their spouse to leave them alone, give them space, that way they can feel emotionally free to philander. But when you extend kindness, it tugs on their conscience and ruins their justification for betraying you.
  4. Seduce ‘em. No one should ever do anything sexually they don’t want to do, but if you desire your spouse then go for it. You’re not doing anything wrong. The other man/woman is the mistress/mister; you’re the wife/husband! And to turn this around it’s helpful to rev up the sexual part of your relationship. Your friend may have told you, “Don’t let him have his cake and eat it too.” Yeah, you’ll feel vindicated withholding sex. But what will that accomplish? It’s punitive; it’s not healing. Show her (or him) what she (or he) be missing if he takes his business elsewhere.
Infidelity in a marriage is difficult and painful.

But close to 50% of marriages are infected with infidelity at some point. Many of those marriages heal and people reconcile.

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