Hello, my name is Luke. Recently, my wife Linda and I have been experiencing a rough patch in our twenty year marriage. It’s gotten so bad that I need to find answers to how do I convince my wife to stay with me.
My wife and I have had our share of problems for the past few years. Problems that I thought we had worked past, but as time goes by, I have begun to realize that maybe we didn’t even scratch the surface of our problems.
I will be the first one to admit that I take responsibility in causing the downfall of our marriage. So I was stupid, and had a three week affair with our neighbor. At the time of this affair, I wasn’t thinking about the consequences and although I have apologized thoroughly, my wife still can’t forgive me.
Although my wife has said that she wants to look past my horrible mistake, she seems to make a habit of shoving my mistake in my face anytime that she could. Yes, I was wrong and I am deeply sorry but I get confused when my wife on one hand says that she could look past my infidelity but on the other hand she mentions my poor choices at every opportunity.
My wife went from being so into our marriage, to so removed from our marriage. Besides arguing with me about everything, she won’t even look at me in the eye. Every time that I try to speak to her, she rolls her eyes. Nothing that I do is okay for my wife anymore. If I take her out for dinner, she hates the food or if I buy her jewelry, she wants to return it or yells at me for wasting money. I’m always wrong.
Before the affair, our marriage wasn’t the best but there was still love in our marriage. My wife respected me, and I think she liked being around me. There was nothing that my wife did that caused my infidelity. I can’t and won’t make excuses for what I did, and I am genuinely sorry.
Not only did I ruin my relationship with my wife, but my kids also are hurt. Being that I had an affair with my neighbor, my children get worried every time I leave the house. No one trusts me anymore. Even after assuring them that I will never stray from my marriage again, everyone in my house takes what I have to say with a grain of salt.
As time went by, I finally asked my wife if she would seek counseling with me. Luckily, she was on board with that suggestion. Together we wanted to work on the fact that my wife can’t get over my affair. After searching online, we decided to use Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness Program. Through this program, we were able to learn how to move forward in our marriage. I am glad to have my family back!
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I was very reluctant to do the program, but I told my wife Michelle I would do it, essentially as a last ditch effort. It turned out to be one of the major things that helped save our marriage.