Two years ago, I married the girl of my dreams. For the first year, it felt like every day we were still on our honeymoon. Right after our second anniversary, it seemed like everything changed. My beautiful bride went from beaming from ear to ear when she saw me, to barely looking at me. My wife ignores me. I know that there are always two sides to every story, but as much as I rack my brain as to what went wrong in my marriage, I couldn’t find an answer.
My wife used to always say to me how I was her Prince Charming, and I hope that I expressed to her that she was my Cinderella. When out with friends, my wife never left my side. Everyone would always joke about how attached we were. After our anniversary, this wasn’t the case anymore. At the beginning of her ignoring me, when we would go out with friends, she would always go on the other side of the room. I would ask her why, but she said that I was overthinking things.
Going out together with friends turned into a rare occurrence, my wife would always insist on a “Girls Night” . Our dates turned into her being on the cell phone the whole time or her being tired. Even at home, she would just watch TV and give me one word answers when I asked about her day. There has been so many times where I just waited for her to ask me how I am doing, and I never got that. I started to feel like my feelings didn’t matter anymore, and that my wife was no longer interested in what I had to say. It got to the point where when I got promoted at work, I didn’t feel comfortable sharing the great news with her. I just didn’t want to be disappointed in her reaction. My wife ignores me. Why would she even care about my promotion?
After months of going back and forth in my mind why my wife ignores me, I finally caved and asked her if anything was wrong. She said that she couldn’t pinpoint what went wrong, but she finally acknowledged that something changed. I think that she was shocked that I actually called her out, and she even said that she couldn’t help herself. Since we were both at a place where we know that there was a problem but couldn’t figure out why, we decided to enlist the help of a professional. Both my wife and I are both private people so we were hesitant in going to find a therapist that would take the time to listen to what we had to say, and possibly figure out what went wrong.
After researching online, we came across Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program where we were able to gain the resources and the tools to work on our marriage from the comfort of our own home. Our communication became so much stronger, and I am pleased to say that my wife now is proud to be my wife again. I’m so glad that I was able to confront my wife before things got out of hand. I was afraid that I also would shut off, and once that happens there would be no positive solution. Now with Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program, I know that will not happen again.
We were on the verge of divorce. He moved out and filed. I was lost. I purchased the Lone Ranger because he was done. Within weeks he went from ignoring everything I said to spending time together. We reconciled. He moved home.